Borderline Personality Disorder and Rage
Borderline Personality Disorder has at its centre tremendous pain that is protected against through many defense mechanisms that manifest themselves through anger and rage. Author, speaker, and life coach, A.J. Mahari, talks about the reason for the anger and rage in BPD. Mahari has an ebook available called “BPD and Rage” and an audio program called, “Rage Addiction in BPD” at phoenixrisingpublications.ca
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November 21st, 2010 at 7:13 am
It would be kind of …
It would be kind of interesting to compare the percentage of BPD people having experienced sexual or family abuse vs the percentage of the general population. I imagine that between the two, there isn’t much difference. Of course, even if there wasn’t a difference, that doesn’t mean it is a non-contributing factor,
November 21st, 2010 at 7:13 am
@KarenLewis7 Well …
@KarenLewis7 Well said
November 21st, 2010 at 7:13 am
@bpdmale Not all …
@bpdmale Not all who are diagnosed with BPD were sexually abused. It can be argued that critical parenting is emotionally abusive. Children need nurture, support, and validation. Criticism, that isn’t constructive and well-balanced with positive affirmation does not support a healthy sense of self. Sensitivity may play a role, however, be careful not to take responsibility for something “wrong” in you when you were you were the child and whatever lead to BPD for you, is not your fault.
November 21st, 2010 at 7:13 am
@KarenLewis7 You …
@KarenLewis7 You are welcome.
November 21st, 2010 at 7:13 am
@yatesmsw Thanks
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Sorry to hear that about your childhood. My mother and father wouldn’t acknowledge what they did to me either. We must live our own truth and not allow it to be invalidated.
@yatesmsw Thanks
November 21st, 2010 at 7:13 am
Thank you for your …
Thank you for your video….very helpful and useful information
November 21st, 2010 at 7:13 am
@bpdmale Dear …
@bpdmale Dear bpdmale…..I have been a mom for 25 years….a parent should be loving , caring, supportive and encouraging to their children…..to me criticism is a form of abuse. You deserved as every child does to be loved unconditionally by your parents…..in a perfect world this would happen. May you find the peace and love you deserve…..: )
November 21st, 2010 at 7:13 am
I wasn’t abused …
I wasn’t abused either. Although I had critical parents. But my 3 siblings are fine. My theory is that I am simply more sensitive and therefore experienced their criticism more deeply.
November 21st, 2010 at 7:13 am
these videos are so …
these videos are so dead on, you have so much insight. I am slowly recovering, learning how to care for self, i was molested as a child then was not able to speak about it as an adult with my mother, she would not acknowledge it. Thank you for these videos.
November 21st, 2010 at 7:13 am
@LadyValentine666 I …
@LadyValentine666 I haven’t ever said that all people with BPD were abused by their parents at all. The seeds of BPD are planted well before or up to the age of 3. The experience you mention of being bullied and abused by boyfriends may well have been what played a significant role in BPD coming to light in your life. It would not be the sole cause. As I said, I have never said that all with BPD are abused by parents or sexually abused – 75% are – but not all.
November 21st, 2010 at 7:13 am
its not true that …
its not true that everyone with Bpd is abused by there parents
i wasnt i come from a loving home my parents were always there for me and always are i have loving parents <3 it was the bullying at school and the abusive behaviour from ex boyfriends that bought mine on.so please dont say that because its not always true!!!
November 21st, 2010 at 7:13 am
Hey AJ another …
Hey AJ another great vid. I really have appreciated your insight as I have come to terms with a past relationship with a woman that has BPD/NPD/HPD reactive/defensive patterns. It was the most painfull relationship precisely because it was an opening to past loss and anger related to my BPD/NPD parents. Thank you again